No Attachments

If I am what I have and I lose what I have. Then what am I? - Author Psychologist

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Be careful what you attach yourself to and the things/people you allow to make you whole.

It is a common fact as human beings that if we come into a situation; whether that situation is a job, a relationship, or a particular endeavor; half suited. As a result we look for that other thing to make us whole. We become dependent on that other half because it has given us feelings that really we should already feel on the inside already.

As human beings we should already feel secure, joyful, stable, and content before entering into any type of agreement because we begin feel connected to that thing as if our umbilical cord was attached to it when we were born.

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To give another example, would you ever arrive at a table to negotiate with half a hand or having less power. Or being at the table would you display your powerlessness? Why allow this to happen on a daily basis?

Do not allow something or someone to be the filler for your emptiness.

So, how does one protect themselves from this? Ask and answer the following 3 questions continuously, not just once, but at least once a month:

1. What emptiness do you feel within? Do you feel lonely, bored, not loved, stuck....? Figure out why you feel that way and give a solution but that solution must be an extension of you.

2. What is blocking from becoming whole or complete? Maybe you rely too much upon a person or do you watch too much television which blocks you from living or learning about your authentic self?

3. What are you allowing to be the validation of who you are?

This is a process and not a one time activity. You will have to do this continuously through out your life. But it is better to do this continuously instead of getting sucked in and fighting your way to get out and return to yourself.